My Project for 2011

So I have a big project, that I need to do and I have only done about 5% so far. I decided to share what it is, because I do feel like it is an important project to do.

It all started one December morning when we woke up to this in our neighborhood. We actually took these pictures.

A house had burned to the ground, with the family losing everything they had. The good news, was that they were on vacation, so no one got hurt. Then I got thinking about a couple of months ago, when a forest fire made people have to evacuate fast from their homes. So I decided I didn't want to lose everything, and I didn't want struggle trying to find important things, when evacuating my home.

So I have started scanning copies of everything that is important to me and putting them on a portable hard drive. Stuff like: Adoption Decrees, Birth Certificates, Baptism Certificates, Blessing Certificates, Any document, that I want to keep.

Then I started started scanning all my scrapbook pages for our family. I started with my daughter Anika, but I need to go back and do my wedding book, and my childhood and my husband's childhood scrapbooks. I am a big scrapbooker, so this is a big project. The scrapbook page below is when I was pregnant with my daughter. Sorry I forgot to rotate the page.

I filed them on my computer like this:

Anika's Scrapbook
Scrapbook 1

Bk1Pages 1-30

anibk1pg1 (each file matched the page it was)

Then after I got her first book scanned I realized she was born Pre-Digital Camera, so then I took each scan and made pictures scans as well.
I figure this will be good for other reasons as well: Anytime I need young pictures of her, I will have them now and when she gets married, I won't have to do this for her video.

This is how I have filed them:

My Pictures
1997
Jul-Dec
July 1997
7-97-1 (7 for July, 97 for the year, 1 for the picture #)

I can't even imagine losing these cute little pictures.

Anyway that is what I am doing for the whole year of 2011. We first got a digital camera with our 3rd child and she is now 8. So I have to do the picture thing for two kids, plus the stuff I listed above. Then I need to scan in every one's scrapbooks.

I have only ran into one problem. I will need to buy a 12x12 scanner when I get to the time that I switched to bigger scrapbooks. But I figure that is a good thing to have anyway.

When I am done, I will put them in a Safety Deposit box at the bank, and of course keep copies here that I can use for my day to day use.

So that just gives you another idea of how to save your kids precious memories and pictures.

My Favorite Quote!

Whatever you are... Be a good one! A. Lincoln

I think this is a great quote to start out the school year right.

As a child I hated being compared to my other siblings. Maybe one was more talented, or one had better grades, maybe one was more outgoing, or maybe one teacher liked my older sibling best. I was not a straight A student, but I didn't get bad grades. I hated having my report card on the fridge with my straight A honor roll brother.

When I got kids I started out with an honor roll daughter. The next one came and she is delayed. Now I have 5 and I have no idea what life is going to throw us. I have learned that it doesn't matter about honor rolls, or being delayed, it matters what is in each of your children that makes them special. It doesn't matter if we are still on a first grade reading level, it doesn't matter if we all go to college and get honor cords. What matters is that we be whatever we are and that we be a good one. I am sure that all my kids will be educated, but I have no idea what they will choose and how long that might take them.

I didn't realize this personally until I was a junior in college. I didn't even realize that I had very specific talents that no one else in my family has. They did, but I never knew. For my kids I want better. I am recognizing these talents and helping them by pointing them out and making them feel proud. My 12 year old is very musical and very responsible, my 10 year old is very courageous, she is very organized, and she loved dance, My 7 year old has a love of life, she loves sports, and she is a really good reader. She also is my nurse of the family. My 4 year old is a great runner. He runs faster than anyone else in the family. He loves anything that involves pipes! and My 1 year old baby: He is very interested in lights. He is always trying to figure out how they work.

As my daughter is starting Jr. High, I think of all the kids that will potentially pick on her or make her feel less than who she is. My goal is to make sure she has a good self esteem before all that happens, so she can just shrug it off and move on.

So I guess this post is just about helping your child realize what talents they have, voicing them to them, and that we didn't all come out of the same mold. We are all unique and it doesn't matter what we are....... just be a good one.

More Reward Charts

Reward Charts!

I have two kids that have been having a REALLY hard time in school. One of the two also has a really hard time communicating. So we set up behavior folders for each of them. On the cover it lists their first name, teacher, and grade. Inside the folder has a pocket on each side and a three hole area for the middle. One side of the folder has a place for their homework (since it was being thrown away), grades, or things that are coming home for us to see. The other side is for extra papers (I try to make up a couple months worth of papers). The three hole area has a calendar (one of my kids sees three teachers a day so she has a calendar that has a place for all three teachers to place comments. This is what hers looks like. The other child has just one teacher and so she has a more of a month calendar! It also has a reward chart that has a goal they are working on. I have the teachers pick the goal, but if you were doing something for home, you would want to. Our goals have been: Sitting in your seat and raise your hands if you need to tell the teacher something (since one likes to follow the teacher around), Telling the truth, bringing the folder to all the teachers to sign and then back home, Reading a book and telling the plot of the story at the end, Doing 10 subtraction problems, etc. If it is a hard one like sitting in your seat, then I divide that into three time periods and the teacher can give her up to three smiley faces or check marks on her reward sheet.

It also lists the reward they are going to get. So far we have done: Getting to go to the movie store and pick out your own movie to watch with the family, sleepover with grandma, Late night, game with mom and dad. It has been working really well.My problem though is that I had to make this up as I went along. The teachers are more than happy to do the goals, and to check things off and make notes, but not to organize the whole thing. I also thought I would have been able to find really cute goal/reward charts on the Internet that I could print off. I did find some and I will put that at the end of this post, but not many. So I decided I would just make my own. That way I can decide how many they need to get in order to get their reward. When I started this, they only had to get like five. Now I have increased it, so they are having to work harder for their prize.

It has really worked for us so far. Do we still have problems? YES! At least once a week I get a note from the teacher that something has happened, and once I got a call from the principal. But overall they are working harder, being more responsible, being more behaved, and getting better grades! If I end up making more, I will post them. Also this is the site I have been using a little:

http://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com/singlebehaviorcharts.htm

Teaching Life Skills

I am amazed at how many parents give their children handicaps, by not teaching them to take responsibility for themselves. As we grow, we need to learn how to do things for the future. I think we do good with the oldest, but then slack off on the other children. So here are a few experiences that have changed my life, for the better.

One of my biggest issues is when young teenagers are not given opportunities to work outside of the home. I think it is really important to learn to hold a job and to learn to work with bosses. I think if you expect them to just get a job out of college with no work experience, you are crazy. Working creates really good skills and responsibility. I also feel if your child can't hold onto a job for more that a year at a time (except if he is only going to do it for the Summer), then something must be wrong (not with the employer, but your child). I feel that teaching them at an earlier age and having expectations will help with that.

I have a husband that could make bread when we got married. He is a really good cleaner, takes direction well, irons, and knows how to do lots of things that help me in my home. Yet his little brother, can barely feed himself in his adulthood. My husband is a GREAT husband, and I know it is because he learned how to take care of a family and house. He is my partner through and through. The other day I heard someone say that their husband gets mad when the living room is dirty. I thought of my husband, and the fact that he wouldn't say a word, he would just roll up his sleeves and help clean it. I think sometimes we get in the mindset that we only need to teach our daughters certain things. Enough of this! Lets teach our boys, so they can become great men, husbands, and fathers.

My husband was never taught at home about cars. He has told me many times, that he almost ruined his first car, because his dad never taught him to change the oil (or take it to someone who could). In contrast I saw my brother-in-law changing oil in his driveway. I asked him who taught him how to change oil (and save mega money through the years) he couldn't remember. He said he has been doing it his whole life.

I here people say all the time, that their teenager has no idea how to make food and would starve without them. WHAT? What happens when they go to college, or when they have a family. I am teaching my daughter to cook right now. I take the time to teach her principles of why I did what I did, and how to fix a mistake. Yes she has got burned, yes she has made some terrible things, but more and more she is getting better and makes some really nice things.

My mom once ruined a pair of my Levis. I sat and yelled at her and my dad heard. I was old enough to do my own laundry (I think I was 14), and so he said, "Mom will buy you a new pair, but then you get to do your own laundry from now on". It was the best thing for me. I now with a family of 7 spend lots of my time doing laundry, I am glad I learned how early.

Even with my 4 year old, I am teaching him how to take care of himself. Not just the usual: get dressed, brush teeth, but things like: Cleaning his room, Helping with the laundry, making his bed, Washing hand prints off the wall, and he has now mastered the art of wiping off all the counters in the kitchen and putting all the dishes in the sink. Is he perfect at these things? No, but each day he gets better and better.

So here is a list of things that we can work on now, that will make the difference in the long run:
1. Fixing a simple meal (p&b Sand.) then eating it, the cleaning up your mess
2. Cooking Dinners or Desserts
3. Taking the dry clothes out of the dryer and folding them. (and if they are still wet-what do you do?
4. Saving Money for college or something special
5. Cleaning up messes
6. If you get something messy on your clothes, how to put pre-wash on it and put it in the laundry
7. How to iron a shirt
8. How to sew on a button
9. How to make simple repairs
10. What to do in an emergency with a car (change a tire, if we are on the side of the road, changing the oil, etc)
11. Sorting Laundry into colors, and why we do that
12. Moving the wet laundry to the dryer.
13. Starting a new batch of laundry.
14. organization
15. Manners
16. The rules of Thank You notes
17. Teaching to pick up the slack if someone needs it
18. How to change sheets (and how often)
19. How to get a stain out of the carpet.
20. How to budget
21. How to balance a checkbook and handle credit cards
22. How to mow the lawn (girls need to do outside work too)
23. How to shop for a good deal
24. How to shop with coupons
25. How to do a pony tail (boys can learn to braid too)

Now I stopped at 25, but I could go on and on. There are so many skills that teenagers and young adults today are just not learning. Lots that I see involve the home: cleaning, cooking, fixing things, etc. It is my goal to have my children learn the above list (and more) sometime while they are in my care. And then when they have a life of their own (or heaven forbid- I get sick or die and really need their help), that they will know what to do. Alot of these can be taught in a fun way, that they would have no clue what you were doing. And then years later when they need the information, BAM! they remember and can do it.

So that is my thought for today. Don't forget to teach your child Life Skills! And if I missed some you want to add, just add them into the comment section. Also as a side note if you have special situations in your home, teach your kids about those and how to care for them. Like I have two black girls that I have adopted. Their hair is impossible to do. So I am teaching my 3 girls how to do their hair. I hope as teenagers, I will only assist as needed and they will learn how to do their hair. You might have a sick child, a pet, or some issue that needs to be addressed as well. Prepare them.

Quote

Peace begins with a Smile!

I have been teaching my children about Peace and becoming a peacemaker. I found this quote and I loved it. I printed it up and put it on a magnet board that is in the kitchen. I was told in church a couple of months ago that one of the best things we can do as a parent, is to smile at our children. Specifically when they have been out and are coming back to the house. I thought back to how many times I have told my kids (when picking them up from school), to get in the car quick- we are going to be late. What if I had stopped and given them an appropriate greeting? So this week I am working on that. Smiling more and by doing that, showing them how much I love them. So start smiling more and you might see a difference in your home life.

One Word......

This year I have decided that as a family we are going to have a one word goal for the whole year. I think I will even frame it or put it in Vinyl lettering somewhere in the house as a reminder. Because I am LDS, and I hold Family Home Evening, I am going to do it then. First I am going to introduce the word, then the next week teach them what it means, and then the weeks after that I think I will have one person that is a detective that gets to find an example of someone doing that in our house that week.

So After thinking and talking to my cousin, I got my word. It is a word that I feel my family needs to be working on this year.

The word is.....

Peace

I am excited to have my Peacemaker Detectives and hopefully by the end of the year I will have a home that has more peace, more peacemakers, and that we will be more like the Prince of Peace- Jesus Christ.

So I encourage you to do the same and come up with a word that your family can work on, or a motto for your family. It can be a simple word, that hopefully can change your family for the better.